Pressure

I am always ok with pressure from work. That doesn't mean I like it, I am just saying that usually I can handle it quite well. At least, my colleagues said they never see me angry at anyone or myself at work. And I never really do.



I always think, it's just a job. If you don't like it, quit it and find a new one. There’re so many jobs in this world. It’s also the main reason why I prefer to choose a generalist rather specialist position. The “Freedom to quit” matters a lot to me.



(Years ago, I had to write an essay about what I really want to achieve in my life. I told a friend, only at that moment, I realized that what matters most to me is the freedom to live the way i want. If I born in ancient china, probably I will wear man clothes and sneak out from home.........)



What if the source of pressure is from your family?



When I was small, my understanding of family is pretty simple. I got only one father, one mother, and a younger brother.



It’s getting more complicated after you get married. It involves husband, parents-in-law, husband’s relatives......may be more.......



It can be even more complicated / stucked after you start having the 1st child, 2nd child etc.



When children grow up, new family members may join. The cycles continues, your roles change. You might get an upgrade, or sth else.....



Quiting from your family is difficult, or impossible. This is not what we are programmed to do. Sometimes, you have no one to blame but yourself, bcos you choose to walk into this prison.



That’s why the pressure from family is most depressing.